The greatest question for a young girl who loses her mother is, how will I get through all of the milestones in my life without her? Beginning in our tweens through our thirties, there are so many milestones in a daughter’s life, experiences that are not the same if your mom isn’t there. There is no denying that things will not be the same without mom there to help you get ready for prom, to celebrate your college graduation, to help you pick out your dress and plan your wedding, and the biggest of all, she will not be there when you have your first child.
Even though my mom was alive until I was twenty, and she was there to help me with prom and to graduate from high school, every other milestone I have experienced without her. My mom died in a car accident on December 28th, 1992. The last day I saw her was on Christmas day. She died 4 months before I turned 21. At 20, I had no idea how I would possibly make it through all of those milestones without her. We were so incredibly close, and even though she was going on her 4th marriage, was narcissistic and flighty, she was perfect to me. She was my mom and no matter what else in my world was going wrong, being with her comforted me like no other could.
October 26, 2014 is the day that I will have officially passed her in years lived. That is the last milestone. After that point, she had no other life experiences, no human life. I am now navigating my world based on myself. There is a freedom to this, but truly that freedom to navigate has grown slowly through each and every milestone that I have confronted without her. There have been a lot of tears and loneliness, but I have also discovered such deep joy that I don’t know if I would have experienced as deeply had I not lost the greatest love of my life, until I had children of my own.
Losing your mom at a young age is so hard and none of us should be all alone in this journey. It is my intention that this website be an interactive resource and place for kindness and comfort. No matter how long it’s been since your mom passed, and regardless of the age you were, it will always be a part of you that you need to care for, and our community will support you getting the love and nurturing you need.